GUEST BLOGGER – What exactly is a divorce coach?

GUEST BLOGGER – What exactly is a divorce coach?

28 Mar 2019
Divorce Coach, Danielle Barbereau, helps explain how a divorce coach can really help you emotionally deal with all aspects of the divorce. Here at Hartlaw, Dianne and Kate have seen several of their clients benefit from working with Danielle and maybe something worth considering for yourself or a friend.  Here’s what you need to know.
It is impossible to understate the tumult of the emotions attached to divorce. Going through a breakup, especially after a long-term relationship, brings chaos and turmoil in your life.  The shock is enormous and you really don’t know what has hit you. You may become confused, accident prone, you may be blaming yourself and wondering how you could have avoided this situation. You may think that you are a failure. You have an overwhelming feeling that you have lost everything, including your future. You even start doubting your past together. Frankly at that stage, you cannot see a way out. People tell you that things will get better, but you don’t believe it.

Certainly, life will never be the same again.

My role as a divorce coach is to provide emotional support during divorce and separation, while your solicitor deals with the legal aspects of the divorce. I can help you recover quicker, gain some acceptance of what is and start thinking about your future.

I have been doing this work for a number of years and I have a proven record of being able to help clients from a bad place to a better place. I relish the challenge of supporting clients through some of the hardest times in their lives and enjoy the privilege of seeing them emerge from despair and forge happier futures. My work helps to:
  • Make difficult decisions at a time when your mind is muddled and everything seems to represent a huge effort
  • Regain a sense of control in your life when you think that everyone else is calling the shots and everything is up in the air
  • Make sense of what has happened and help you work through pain and loss
  • Give you coping strategies to survive on a day to day basis
  • Deal with unhelpful negative emotions (anger, jealousy, dream of revenge, destructive behaviours)
  • Encourage self-care. It is all too easy during the divorce to resort to alcohol, over or under eating, sleeping pills and even dating again to dull the pain
  • Address the sense of worthlessness and loss of confidence you invariably experience at that time. This forms an essential part of the recovery process
  • Prepare to move forward in a positive way. However hopeless it all seems; the bad times will pass.
Danielle Barbereau BA, MA, MAC
Experienced divorce coach, providing emotional support to clients during divorce and separation
Building a supervision practice for family solicitors and barristers
Tel: 07860 801693 | Web: | Twitter: @CoachingDB

Danielle trained with Barefoot Coaching who are renowned for providing University accredited, rigorously validated qualifications, ICF approved (ACTP) and endorsed by the National Council of Psychotherapists.
Full member of the Association for Coaching.

Author of: After The Split The Definitive Guide To Recovery When Relationships Break Down